Motherhood is hard enough. Between waking up for a newborn to running after a toddler midday. Creating an atmosphere where everyone in the house is happy isn't always easy. Having a nanny or mothers helper reduces the stress and allows you to be able to give each child attention individually. Here are 5 steps you can take: 1. Let it be known. Let your children know that in addition to spending time together as a family, you will also spend time with each of them individually.